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Old Posts Articles From Family Doctor.Org
Here is an article from Family Doctor.Org on what you can do to change your child's behavior:

"What is normal behavior for a child?

Normal behavior in children depends on the child's age, personality, and physical and emotional development. A child's behavior may be a problem if it doesn't match the expectations of the family or if it is disruptive. Normal or "good" behavior is usually determined by whether it's socially, culturally and developmentally appropriate. Knowing what to expect from your child at each age will help you decide whether his or her behavior is normal.

What can I do to change my child's behavior?

Children tend to continue a behavior when it is rewarded and stop a behavior when it is ignored. Consistency in your reaction to a behavior is important because rewarding and punishing the same behavior at different times confuses your child. When you think your child's behavior might be a problem, you have 3 choices:

•Decide that the behavior is not a problem because it's appropriate to the child's age and stage of development.
•Attempt to stop the behavior, either by ignoring it or by punishing it.
•Introduce a new behavior that you prefer and reinforce it by rewarding your child.

How do I stop misbehavior?

The best way to stop unwanted behavior is to ignore it. This way works best over a period of time. When you want the behavior to stop immediately, you can use the time-out method.

How do I use the time-out method?

Decide ahead of time the behaviors that will result in a time-out (usually tantrums, or aggressive or dangerous behavior). Choose a time-out place that is uninteresting for the child and not frightening, such as a chair, corner or playpen. When you're away from home, consider using a car or a nearby seating area as a time-out place.

When the unacceptable behavior occurs, tell the child the behavior is unacceptable and give a warning that you will put him or her in time-out if the behavior doesn't stop. Remain calm and don't look angry. If your child goes on misbehaving, calmly take him or her to the time-out area.

If possible, keep track of how long your child's been in time-out. Set a timer so your child will know when time-out is over. Time-out should be brief (generally 1 minute for each year of age), and should begin immediately after reaching the time-out place or after the child calms down. You should stay within sight or earshot of the child, but don't talk to him or her. If the child leaves the time-out area, gently return him or her to the area and consider resetting the timer. When the time-out is over, let the child leave the time-out place. Don't discuss the bad behavior, but look for ways to reward and reinforce good behavior later on.

How do I encourage a new, desired behavior?

One way to encourage good behavior is to use a reward system. Children who learn that bad behavior is not tolerated and that good behavior is rewarded are learning skills that will last them a lifetime. This works best in children older than 2 years of age. It can take up to 2 months to work. Being patient and keeping a diary of behavior can be helpful to parents.

Choose 1 to 2 behaviors you would like to change (for example, bedtime habits, tooth brushing or picking up toys). Choose a reward your child would enjoy. Examples of good rewards are an extra bedtime story, delaying bedtime by half an hour, a preferred snack or, for older children, earning points toward a special toy, a privilege or a small amount of money.

Explain the desired behavior and the reward to the child. For example, "If you get into your pajamas and brush your teeth before this TV show is over, you can stay up a half hour later." Request the behavior only one time. If the child does what you ask, give the reward. You can help the child if necessary but don't get too involved. Because any attention from parents, even negative attention, is so rewarding to children, they may prefer to have parental attention instead of a reward at first. Transition statements, such as, "In 5 minutes, play time will be over," are helpful when you are teaching your child new behaviors.

This system helps you avoid power struggles with your child. However, your child is not punished if he or she chooses not to behave as you ask; he or she simply does not get the reward.

What are some good ways to reward my child?

Beat the Clock (good method for a dawdling child)

Ask the child to do a task. Set a timer. If the task is done before the timer rings, your child gets a reward. To decide the amount of time to give the child, figure out your child's "best time" to do that task and add 5 minutes.

The Good Behavior Game (good for teaching a new behavior)

Write a short list of good behaviors on a chart and mark the chart with a star each time you see the good behavior. After your child has earned a small number of stars (depending on the child's age), give him or her a reward.

Good Marks/Bad Marks (best method for difficult, highly active children)

In a short time (about an hour) put a mark on a chart or on your child's hand each time you see him or her performing a good behavior. For example, if you see your child playing quietly, solving a problem without fighting, picking up toys or reading a book, you would mark the chart. After a certain number of marks, give your child a reward. You can also make negative marks each time a bad behavior occurs. If you do this, only give your child a reward if there are more positive marks than negative marks.

Developing Quiet Time (often useful when you're making supper)

Ask your child to play quietly alone or with a sibling for a short time (maybe 30 minutes). Check on your child frequently (every 2 to 5 minutes, depending on the child's age) and give a reward or a token for each few minutes they were quiet or playing well. Gradually increase the intervals (go from checking your child's behavior every 2 to 5 minutes to checking every 30 minutes), but continue to give rewards for each time period your child was quiet or played well.

What else can I do to help my child behave well?

Make a short list of important rules and go over them with your child. Avoid power struggles, no-win situations and extremes. When you think you've overreacted, it's better to use common sense to solve the problem, even if you have to be inconsistent with your reward or punishment method. Avoid doing this often as it may confuse your child.

Accept your child's basic personality, whether it's shy, social, talkative or active. Basic personality can be changed a little, but not very much. Try to avoid situations that can make your child cranky, such as becoming overly stimulated, tired or bored. Don't criticize your child in front of other people. Describe your child's behavior as bad, but don't label your child as bad. Praise your child often when he or she deserves it. Touch him or her affectionately and often. Children want and need attention from their parents.

Develop little routines and rituals, especially at bedtimes and meal times. Provide transition remarks (such as "In 5 minutes, we'll be eating dinner."). Allow your child choices whenever possible. For example, you can ask, "Do you want to wear your red pajamas or your blue pajamas to bed tonight?"

As children get older, they may enjoy becoming involved in household rule making. Don't debate the rules at the time of misbehavior, but invite your child to participate in rule making at another time.

Why shouldn't I use physical punishment?

Parents may choose to use physical punishment (such as spanking) to stop undesirable behavior. The biggest drawback to this method is that although the punishment stops the bad behavior for a while, it doesn't teach your child to change his or her behavior. Disciplining your child is really just teaching him or her to choose good behaviors. If your child doesn't know a good behavior, he or she is likely to return to the bad behavior. Physical punishment becomes less effective with time and can cause the child to behave aggressively. It can also be carried too far -- into child abuse. Other methods of punishment are preferred and should be used whenever possible."

From: http://familydoctor.org/familydoctor/en/kids/behavior-emotions/child-behavior-what-parents-can-do-to-change-their-childs-behavior.html
1 1 06/21/2012
by: Tickie
Old Posts Avoiding The Melt Down- Self Control Is The Answer

Experiencing a child melt down in a public place or even in your home can be a very frustrating experience. Your self control can actually lead to your child’s self control. If you do not act out of impulse to your child’s melt down, but try a more reasoned approach, you will have a much better chance of getting the melt down under control.

The process can be difficult, but can bring back real rewards for the parents in the form of good behavior. For example, if you tell your child you are not serving dessert until after dinner, and the child cries and whines and has a tantrum, if you exercise self control by not giving in, your child will learn that the temper tantrum will not give him the result he wants, and he may actually lose dessert altogether. The learned behavior will be that it is better to wait for dessert than to melt down.

While the Ticket Store Game can help with day to day behavior, here are some age appropriate suggestions for dealing with melt down behavior:

up to 2 year olds: Try to distract them with their favorite toy or activity. As the child gets closer to 2, try a brief time out so that the child will understand the consequences of his actions. Also, praise your child for calming himself. Positive reinforcement can go a long way in getting a message across.

3 to 5 year olds: Continue with the time out, but consider having the time out last until the child has completely calmed down, with no time limit. This will help your child to develop self control, since he will realize that the time out will not stop until he has regained his self control. Again, reinforce the child’s progress and ability to regain control by praise and positive reinforcement.

6 to 9 year olds: As children spend more time in school, they tend to start to understand more about the consequences of their actions. Encourage children in this age group to stop and think about what will happen based on their actions. Help your child to understand that he can walk away from situations that may cause a melt down reaction. And encourage and praise good behavior.

10 to 11 year olds: As children reach this age, they are generally becoming more aware of their feelings and have the ability to think through situations that may cause them to lose control. Help your child to take time to think through a situation before responding to it. They may find that the situation is not as bad as they had initially thought, and as a result, the melt down is avoided.

Teaching a child self control is important since that skill will likely stay with the child for their whole life. Of course, each situation is different for every child, but using these suggestions along with incorporating the day to day concepts of the Ticket Store Game can help your child improve his behavior, and hopefully avoid the melt down!
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Collapse This Category Great Ideas To Improve Kids Behavior In School    
Old Posts Strategies to improve behavior
Here are some strategies to improve kids behavior in school. Methods include tickets, rewards, and incentive programs to reward good behavior and discourage bad behavior. Read some of the creative rewards that teachers in many grade schools use as reported on ProTeacher Community blog at

http://www.proteacher.org/c/659_Rewards_and_Incentives.html .
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Old Posts The Good Behavior Game
The concept of using rewards for good behavior in the classroom has been around for a long time. The Good Behavior Game was first tested in 1969 and a number of research articles including those by Barrish, Saunders, & Wolf, 1969; Harris & Sherman, 1973; and Medland & Stachnik, 1972, have confirmed the Good Behavior Game as an effective tool in increasing the rate of on-task performance of good behavior while reducing the number of disruptions that occur in the classroom. The Ticket Store Game builds on the same core concepts of identifying tasks and rewarding children for performing those tasks and gives teachers a comprehensive system to stop bad behavior in school. You can find more information and step by step instructions on how the Good Behavior Game has been implemented in schools with great success at http://www.interventioncentral.org/behavioral-interventions/schoolwide-classroommgmt/good-behavior-game . You can use that same process and implement the Ticket Store Game behavior improvement system in your school and classroom and stop bad behavior in the classroom.

The Ticket Store Game is a good tool to help stop bad behavior and build good behavior habits by including important concepts of anti-bullying, community service, acts of kindness as well as important daily school tasks in to the game. These are excellent building blocks for good behavior and values to introduce to children ages 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9 and 10 in kindergarten, first grade, second grade, third grade, fourth grade, fifth grade and sixth grade. Plus the Ticket Store Game has fun features such as avatars for each child, a competition board that shows how each player is performing in the competition, the bonus board game, where Tickie the Mascot is moved around Tickieville to allow each child to earn bonus tickets by performing bonus tasks, individual banks for each child, and many no cost or low cost rewards to choose from. The Ticket Store Game is a great system for schools to use to promote good child behavior and to better manage classroom behavior.
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Old Posts Child Behavior
3 4 03/12/2012
by: Tickie
Old Posts Use of the Ticket Store Game
3 4 01/07/2012
by: Tickie
Collapse This Category Ticket Store Game in Schools    
Old Posts Combat Bullying
The Ticket Store Game behavior system can be used in schools by teachers with groups of up to 15 children. The online game has features that rank children in daily, weekly or monthly competition for first, second, third and fourth prizes. Incorporate tasks to make children aware of relevant issues such as anti bullying and community service.
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by: Tickie
Old Posts Schools Can Try Our Behavior System Free
We have a program for schools to use the game in classrooms and try it for free. Contact us at info@ticketstoregame.com for details on the program. Give us your feed back on how the system is working for your class or school.
1 2 01/15/2012
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Collapse This Category Tips for parents    
Old Posts 3 steps to help improve behavior
One of the most important things in helping to improve behavior is to create a loving relationship with your child. Showing your child that you are willing to take the time to listen, learn, play and teach will go a long way in building that loving relationship. Taking the time to put in the effort and play games together and laugh strengthens the loving bond.

Get ahead of the curve. Plan ahead and anticipate behavior issues before they become a problem. Be pro-active in giving instruction and guidance to help avoid behavior problems. Utilize games and interactive methods to create positive feedback for good behavior.

Reinforce good behavior. Get focused on your child's good behavior and build on it. Praise often. Children thrive on knowing that they are doing good and that they have your approval. Catch your child being good, and let him or her know it. You will be surprised how helpful that can be.

Remember, it sometimes takes small steps to make big progress! Stay with it. It is worth all the effort!
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Old Posts How to Control Your Anger
Sometimes we as parents feel angry because our children are not listening and responding the way we want. Here are some tips that may help in controlling your anger.

1. Try to adjust how you think about what your child is doing. We may begin to believe that our son/daughter is trying to push our buttons or make us angry on purpose. Think of your child as someone just trying to figure out the wide world. Adjust your expectations. And try not to react. You may find that this lowers your anger level.

2. Pay attention to yourself. If you see that you are getting ready to respond in a negative way or snap, know your own warning signs and intervene before you react. Take a moment to regroup. You will find that by paying attention to your own stress meter, you can avoid the angry blow up. Use deep breathing calming techniques for yourself, so that the message you are giving to your child is more balanced and controlled.

3. Reduce stressful moments by being clear in your directives. Use short, clear, and firm instructions. Avoid sarcasm and use praise whenever possible. By being clear and frim, without losing control, you help create a balanced and nurturing environment in which to raise your child.

Keeping calm is not easy, especially with the stress of children who may be demanding of your time and energy to the point of exhaustion. By trying to incorporate some of these techniques, parents can hopefully avoid responding with anger and can build on positive interaction with their children.
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Old Posts Improve Kids Behavior-What Parents Can Do
Here is a helpful article from ADD Magazine for getting better behavior from your kids which incorporates many of the methods used with the Ticket Store Game.

Spend unstructured time together
Schedule 15 minutes each day with your child, to do whatever he wants to. Playing together helps repair the parent-child bond and lays the groundwork for positive reinforcement n the future.
Praise good behavior immediately and often
Positive reinforcement is the best behavioral tool, and especially powerful when it comes from a parent. Look for opportunities throughout the day to praise your child. Keep praise immediate and enthusiastic, and specify the exact behavior you're commending.

Reinforce praise with tokens
This works especially well with young children. Tokens can be anything tangible and easily recorded -- stars on a chart, coins in a jar -- and should be awarded promptly for good behavior. Once a certain number of tokens are amassed, the child earns a predetermined reward, such as a video game, a sleepover at a friend's house, or a trip to the movies.

Don't ask, tell
Don't start your requests with "Would you mind?", or finish them with "O.K.?" Instead, make directives clear and succinct: "I notice your coat is on the floor. I'd like you to pick it up."

Insist that your child make eye contact with you when you speak to him or her
That way, you prevent your kid from ignoring you, while reinforcing what you're trying to communicate. "This can be done with humor," says child psychologist Douglas Riley. "I use the phrase, 'Give me your eyeballs.'"

Let your children know (politely) that they're not your equals
"I urge parents to make it clear that they own everything in their home," says Riley. "Kids are often outraged to discover this. But they need to know that you're in charge, and that access to all the nice things in life, like the phone, TV, and computer, has to be earned by showing positive behavior and a good attitude."

Set up and explain consequences for misbehavior ahead of time
These consequences should involve taking away privileges, such as access to the TV, playtime with friends, or another favorite activity. Particularly bad conduct, such as hitting or other physical violence should result in an extended time-out (30 minutes for children over 8, an hour for adolescents), in an isolated room, where the child is instructed to think about his or her behavior.
Stick to the consequences, no matter what.

"If your child hits a sibling five times and gets punished for it only three times, he knows he's got a 40 percent chance of getting away with that behavior," says psychiatrist Larry Silver, M.D. "A parent has to be 100 percent consistent in addressing bad behavior. Otherwise, the behavior may persist or even get worse."


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Old Posts Which type of discipline is right for me?
We as parents are faced with some difficult choices when it comes to disciplining our children. There are those who follow an "old school" train of though that discipline should involve instilling fear in children by trying to correct bad behavior by physical punishment by way of spanking or worse. In some cases, that method creates a disciplined child, but a child whose discipline is based on fear of their parents.

There are others who would tend to continually ask their children to behave, but who use no tools to help them actually get good behavior. This is more of a "discipline without discipline" method and often results in the child really running the show, and doing what he or she wants to do, when they want to do it. The end result of that method is usually frustration on the part of the parents, and lack of discipline for the child.

Another method, which has been incorporated in to the Ticket Store Game, uses the concepts of children "earning" their way to good behavior and then using the powerful method of positive reinforcement to reinforce the good behavior. Set behavior goals for your child to achieve, reward the child for achieving the goal, and then reinforce the behavior. While each of us have to determine which method is best for our children and families, there are some real benefits to creating lasting behavioral traits from positive reinforcement. Whether you use the patented Ticket Store Game method or just the concepts that have been incorporated in the game, you may want to consider which type of discipline is right for you, and start to implement a consistent plan to achieve your goals! We like to get better behavior-one ticket at a time!

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